airagorncharda:

Hey so FYI, gender does not inherently or automatically correlate with the shape of a body in any way. 

Like, trans women and trans men don’t necessarily want the anatomy you might expect them to, and don’t necessarily have dysphoria about the things you might expect them to. Nonbinary people may or may not want their body to be other than the expected binary for bodies (which is also a more rigid standard than bodies actually naturally come in, but that’s a different issue). Gender fluid people may or may not wish their body could change with their gender, and if they do it may not be how you might expect. 

Hell, cis people can have dysphoria, or wish their body were shaped in a way that we associate with a different gender, for reasons other than their GENDER not matching ASSIGNED gender. 

Not everybody who feels like a guy wants a dick, or a beard, or a deep voice. Not everybody who feels like a woman wants a vag, or tits. We’ve covered the fact that gender =/= gender expression, but that extends beyond wearing pink or makeup or dresses vs flannel and short hair and boots. It extends to how we feel in our bodies too. 

Lots of dysphoria comes from other people’s expectations and reactions to our bodies. 

EXAMPLE: I had a whole lot more bottom dysphoria before I started transitioning and stopped getting misgendered as much. Turns out my dysphoria with my junk was mostly caused my feelings about how I was perceived, and related hatred of the way my body might perpetuate that perception. Turns out my junk wasn’t the problem; transphobes were. Turns out that affects my gender exactly zero.

This is shit I want other trans people to know, because it took me a LONG time to figure it out on my own, and when I did it helped me view my body better, and better understand the things about my body that I wanted to change for myself vs for how I was perceived. This knowledge allowed me to communicate what I wanted and to therefore get the best possible results out of my top surgery.