hey so it’s march now aka the beginning of endometriosis awareness month and i feel obligated to remind you that debilitatingly painful periods are not normal. if you or someone you know is ending up sick or bedridden every month, you are not crazy and deserve medical attention from someone who will take you seriously
hey it’s march again let’s get this post circulating again
Hey, I got diagnosed at 30, so it’s never too late. Be an unholy nuisance to doctors until they look!
In my FAQ which is an accessible link on my blog, I state that your questions have to be more specific than this. No harm done, I just want to remind people about the FAQ.
This question is difficult to answer because if you remove the “male characters” specifically, it’s “how do you write a relationship” which is hard, because there are so many different people and each one of them will have a different type of relationship with their partner. There is no surefire way on how a mlm relationship is supposed to be. One thing that will be beneficial, is to do some research. There are many blogs run by mlm, or preexisting stories where you can take inspiration from.
There are some things you should probably avoid if this is supposed to be a positive relationship:
power imbalances
clearly making one man “the woman” of the relationship (they’re both men!)
huge age differences/relationships between minors and adults (plays into the gay pedophile trope)
If you have a more specific question later, feel free to send another message 🙂
A lot of the dialogue I see on here about the demonization of butch lesbians in both wlw and non-wlw circles never takes into account butch lesbians of color, and so I want to remind everyone that butch lesbians of color face amplified forms of alienation, dehumanization, and fetishization because they aren’t just butch or lesbian or nonwhite but all three simultaneously.
Butch lesbians of color deserve all the love and respect in this world. They shouldn’t be ignored in your conversations about fetishization or homophobia or racism. Butch lesbians of color are often treated as if they are predatory and aggressive, which isn’t just rooted in lesbophobia – it’s also rooted in racism and fetishization. On the other hand, they may not be deemed “butch/gnc” enough by white women, and may not have access to performing their butch identity that white women do. But lesbian woc who identify as butch are butch, and no white woman or non-lesbian can take that away from them.
Butch lesbians of color are a diverse, multifaceted group of people spanning ages, countries, religions, races, and experiences. They are central to lesbian culture, to wlw/lbpq solidarity, and to LGBT resistance. They have been an essential part of feminist scholarship and organizing. They have been at the forefront of anti-racist, anti-colonialist, anti-capitalist, and anti-imperialist movements. Their contributions to lesbian culture, to lbpq solidarity, and to LGBT liberation are innumerable, priceless, and ever-expanding.
Protect, prioritize, and respect butch lesbians of color. Advocate for them the way they have fought for every single person in their myriad communities and coalitions.
(This is wholly inclusive of trans and nonbinary butch lesbians of color).
“all star” by smash mouth, but only using the sounds and beats on my synth (and also anthony “ten second songs” vincent on some other instruments) these titles are getting too long
someone call 911 Guillermo del Toro personally broke into my home, ripped my still beating heart from my chest, gave it a gentle smooch and a pat and put it back, leaving the way he came.
Either some amount of gender OR body dysphoria yes, but the intensity absolutely varies from person to person
Personal belief: You need to at least feel out of place. Not to the degree of crying yourself to sleep at night because your body is not the way you wish it were (gender wise), but enough to think “I don’t feel connected to my body. I do not feel much like a [assigned sex].”
I feel like saying “you need to have <i>dysphoria</i>” makes people panic because they may take that to the extreme and not the minimal, you know?
You know yourself better than anyone else, and if you feel like you’re not in the right body, or feel out of place because of your gender, just know that reguardless of the people who will disagree, there will be a plethora of people to support you. You just have to sift through the rocks before you can find the gems.